a rant about people who glorify depression

okay so this is something that has been bothering me for a while.
it's how people glorify self-harm, depression etc. on social networking and real life.
i see people EVERYWHERE flaunting the fact that they're "depressed" and posting pictures of their mutilated wrists as if depression is some trend.

another thing i've been noticing is how people say "oh i'm soooo depressed i want to kill myself" when the worst thing that has happened to them in life is that their crush wouldn't talk to them or something.

and the sad thing is? there are people who genuinely suffer from depression. there are people who have absolutely nothing to look forward to in their lives and spend every waking hour contemplating death. however, you don't see them flaunting their cuts at every single person who walks past don't you?

depression is a real psychological disorder. it's something that affects people around the world. it's basically something that lots of people around the world suffer from and unfortunately, small-minded idiots treat it like it's nothing.

maybe you should put stop listening to black veil brides and posting facebook statuses about how you're "soooooo broken because someone hacked you on fantage" and think about how lucky you are in life.

rant over.

you have no idea how hard it was not to cuss in this. in my book, what you call "cuss words" i call "sentence enhancers".

Idk qut depression is tho.

thank you so much for this rant.

I can relate. My friend was saying that he was so depressed and was thinking of killing himself over what I would consider a small issue.

Although I'm sure I'll get my fair share of crap for saying this, I agree with you.

I've never gone through long-term serious depression, but I definitely know what the feeling is like. Pretending to be depressed over trivial things not only makes you look like an obsessive psycho, but also pokes fun at something that is serious. Depression is real. 35,441 people commit suicide every year in America, making it the 11th top cause of death here. That's really sick, isn't it? Don't say you're going to contribute to that number, even if you think you are. If that's the case, tell your parents or call 911 or something that can actually do something for the situation. Your internet can't do a thing to help you, even if they're supportive.

oh so thats what depression is. its worse than being sad. once on instagram someone said "i am so sick of the people that are like "oh i have so much homework! im so depressed!" you are not depressed, you are SAD. im here walking around thinking about whether to kill myself or not!" and i was like "KILL YOURSELF?" so yea. is depression serious?

some people can't handle depression, so it is serious to them, specially those who are suicidal. it messes up their way of thinking about something that is just a simple issue to normal people. those who cut their wrists because of depression and posts them on social media, well i think they just want attention and not really depressed (emo people do these kinds of things a lot)

Lindα wrote:

oh so thats what depression is. its worse than being sad. once on instagram someone said "i am so sick of the people that are like "oh i have so much homework! im so depressed!" you are not depressed, you are SAD.  im here walking around thinking about whether to kill myself or not!" and i was like "KILL YOURSELF?" so yea. is depression serious?

Yes it's serious in ways that lead you to kill yourself or run away.

Some people get depressed because of family issues and things going on in life. Not depressed because you got tons of homework. That's being stressed out. Mostly some people get stressed out by homework and they call it a depression. It's not.

i 100% agree with this post. depression is serious, and a lot of people claim to be depressed because of their social status and homework. this is not okay. depression is real, and needs to be stopped. don't make it worse because you're upset about not being popular and stuff.

hey can i just say depression is a mental disorder that can affect anybody, lucky or not and it IS possible to feel depressed and like killing yourself over small things
other than that i agree

Oliver wrote:

hey can i just say depression is a mental disorder that can affect anybody, lucky or not and it IS possible to feel depressed and like killing yourself over small things
other than that i agree

i see where you're going, but just wanting to kill yourself over small things seems awfully sad and frankly a bit ridiculous in some cases. depression is spreading fast these days, and the amount of suicides is really sad!! it would help if people tried to be happy and focus on the positive things in life, rather than throwing away their lives from depression. i know it's really hard to be happy at times, but there's a lot to be grateful for and one lesser depressed person is one life saved!

(i hope i didn't offend anybody suffering from depression, that was never my intention)

Oliver wrote:

hey can i just say depression is a mental disorder that can affect anybody, lucky or not and it IS possible to feel depressed and like killing yourself over small things
other than that i agree

i agree with what you've said in a way but what i'm saying is how people claim that they're "depressed" when they actually mean "sad" and also how people post emo pictures from tumblr on facebook as their profile pic when they have their sad moments so people will be like "BBZ R U OK???????" "no.......plz dunt die i luff u" etc etc. for attention.

btw can i just say that cutting yourself and claiming that you're depressed because someone scammed your frisky is actually ridiculous and is kind of offensive to people who actually suffer from clinical depression...(and yes, the frisky being scammed story is actually a true story, unfortunately  )

I'm depressed.

Bah, it's rather sad how many people I've met who are exactly like the type of people you describe. I remember one girl who said that she wanted to die, and that her father was such a terrible person, and that she was so depressed over everything (THERE ARE STARVING CHILDREN IN AFRICA, GIRL); and I was expecting something like abuse, or something even worse perhaps. However, when I asked what was wrong, all it was was that her father wouldn't allow her to take a walk with her friend because her homework hadn't been finished yet. ._. Really girl, REALLY?
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I've also met many people who cut for unjustifiable reasons (there really is no acceptable reason to ruthlessly mutilate yourself), and most of them have reasons such as: "My mom won't let me get a boyfriend" or like you said: "My account was hacked". I suppose when one never has encountered actual terrifying problems, the slightest disturbance in their wonderful 'first world country I can eat dinner every night' world, becomes an enormous tragedy.

ASDFGHJKL alison thank you so much for posting this! I have always thought about this same thing, but I was scared that people would get mad at me...

I agree that little stuff like homework does not make you depressed. Though the one thing I don't agree about that statement is that if you are already depressed, school work can make you feel even worse because of all the stress. That is not true for everyone, but I know that it is true for some people. Also, posting a picture of tiny scratches that you call "cuts" on instagram is VERY annoying like you said. I have seen an attention seeker who actually made people believe that she committed suicide for a day, but I wont share the story since it is too long...

i agree
but i just want to get this out of the way... not every depressed person cuts, or self harms at all. but if they do, there ARE multiple ways to hurt themselves, not JUST cutting. i've heard of people burning themselves + bruising themselves instead of tearing their skin apart. also, what some people may consider "small things" ... a depressed person may not. common, everyday issues are magnified in their mind. you know what i mean?

Personal story time: I am almost in the 12th grade and I've suffered from anxiety and depression since 8th grade. Nobody knew about it besides my therapist and obviously my family. When I would say I was sad, everyone would just say I was making it up for attention. It got really bad in the beginning of 10th grade. I didn't really talk to anyone and I just lost interest in activities. I quit cheerleading and tennis. Then I realized that only I can change myself and it is up to me and only me. Currently I am doing so much better! I am in Varsity cheerleading and I play on my school's tennis team. I also joined Rugby... even though I'm bad at it! Anyone going through depression: it gets better.

OT: Yeah I agree that glorifying depression is wrong!

I hate these people.... I also was in similar mood like many times before I've seen this thread. I even cut myself 4 times. This is very ridiculous. Life can end but only once.

thanks for doing this. depression is REAL and not a silly thing that you will get over in a couple of days.

Frankly I think people are cutting themselves just for the sake of posting it on instagram, but that's just me.

This is way too true and seriously those "depressed" people need to Get. A. Life. But even if they WERE depressed, what's the point of posting it online instead of telling your parents/doctor? The internet is seriously too brutal for them to just go around and post random "I'm depressed" speeches if they really were depressed, because it'll end up making it way worse.

Also depression is a medical condition... many people don't understand that... :/

Brave~ wrote:

Frankly I think people are cutting themselves just for the sake of posting it on instagram, but that's just me.

some cutters are like that, but not every one is. some people hide their cuts, but someone else may find out on accident and tell everyone else. or maybe the cutter tells their best friend and the "friend" stabs him/her in the back by blurting out their secret. possibly the cutter cuts to make themself feel better, but they post about it on social media sites simply to find people that they can relate to. not every person who cuts does it for attention.

Everything you all said is true...
It is sometimes not even possible to tell that a person cuts themselves. I have a perfectly happy, cheerful friend, but I found out this year that she cut herself due to family issues. I had no idea, and some people spread the rumors of her cutting herself with scissors. Those people were saying how stupid she was, when they don't even understand her situation. :/ People like that... Just need to shut up. But, I'm not protecting those who do things like that to get attention. Those people need to just stop. -.-' It shouldn't be made into a joke..

PREACH THAT ALISON. I swear to god you teenagers need to god damn get a grip. It's your choice to be happy and well personally I think they're all just SO WEAK. Like man up.. you all are just too young understand real life and death situations.

e.v.o.l wrote:

Brave~ wrote:

Frankly I think people are cutting themselves just for the sake of posting it on instagram, but that's just me.

some cutters are like that, but not every one is. some people hide their cuts, but someone else may find out on accident and tell everyone else. or maybe the cutter tells their best friend and the "friend" stabs him/her in the back by blurting out their secret. possibly the cutter cuts to make themself feel better, but they post about it on social media sites simply to find people that they can relate to. not every person who cuts does it for attention.

what you said here and the other thing you said is totally true (even though i don't think i said cutting is the only method of self harm)

i think what i said before was flawed and i didn't really present my opinions in a logical way idk i'm not very good with wording and stuff

i guess overall i'm talking about people who think depression is "tragically beautiful" and who think it's pretty girls who flounce about in flower crowns and think someone will "save them" lmao. also those online depression tests are usually bs. you wouldn't diagnose yourself with cancer so why would you diagnose yourself with depression??

but yeah it's a bit of a touchy issue and the point i'm trying to get across is depression should not be glorified

Scarlet8 wrote:

PREACH THAT ALISON. I swear to god you teenagers need to god damn get a grip. It's your choice to be happy and well personally I think they're all just SO WEAK. Like man up.. you all are just too young understand real life and death situations.

i think it's extremely rude to say that because some people are genuinely depressed and they can't just "get a grip" like that and people who are emotionally damaged and still here are so strong. what you said is not what i meant like please don't say that thanks

ok ok i'm done now bye